Tips and tricks on how to handle an unexpected pregnancy when you aren’t yet ready. Spend that unplanned pregnancy planning for the baby the best you can!
I have a sad confession to make here mama: I was not jumping for joy with either of my pregnancies. With Miss M, I remember taking the test and coming back to the bedroom where my boyfriend was. I looked at him, “What now? What are we going to do? This cannot be happening!”
Meanwhile, he was silently jumping for joy that his first child was officially on the way.
There’s lots of talk about how a woman is “supposed to feel” surrounding her pregnancy. I definitely didn’t feel any of those emotions. I felt panic, guilt, and uncertainty. I already had one child I felt I was barely able to provide for, and adding a second sounded like a serious disaster.
Sound familiar? You’re not alone my friend. I want to share my experience and how you can try to handle this unexpected pregnancy of yours. It’s not easy, but you will get through it.
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Acknowledge your feelings about your unexpected pregnancy
Remember when I said I got really freaked out by my pregnancy? That was no joke. I was instantly in panic mode and I didn’t know what to do. I felt worried, fearful, and guilty. I was the farthest thing from excited. And you know what? That feeling didn’t go away for quite some time.
I didn’t start getting excited until my last trimester. While all of our friends, family, and my boyfriend were over the moon excited, I was freaking out. Some days, I was literally in tears about it. I didn’t feel confident at all. But it’s okay. Just don’t pretend. Come to terms with how you feel and work through it.
It’s okay to break the rules with your unexpected pregnancy.
With my first child, I didn’t do this. I stuck to every single rule out there to a T for the entire pregnancy. But honestly? It’s not necessary. Sure, things like avoiding raw egg and cold deli meat are very important to follow. But things like no caffeine, no junk food, and no fish? You can break those rules once in a while.
I definitely broke a rule or two rather regularly. I didn’t chug an entire pot of coffee on a daily basis or go out of my way to have sushi for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, but I enjoyed things as I could. Once in a while isn’t going to hurt. My healthy 9 month old little girl will have to agree with me on that!
Start planning your unexpected pregnancy
When I say start planning, I mean plan the during, and after. Plan for every thing that will happen, could happen, and probably won’t happen. It’s good to be prepared. But to break it down further, let me provide some additional tips.
Check-ups: It’s best to make an appointment as soon as you suspect you are pregnant but can wait a very short while. Going to your baby doctor is very important for you and your baby. They will make sure you and your baby are healthy and answer any questions you have.
Get your ducks in a row: If you’re anything like I was, the lack of finances are the first thing to pop into your head when you find out that you are pregnant. What. Are you going to do. Now is the time to figure that out. You can find a different job, seek a raise, or start your own online business. You have 9 months before she will be here so get planning! The most important part is to make a goal and make it happen. Cut back if needed, but remember it’s expensive to have a baby!
Stick to the basics: Babies do not need everything – just the essentials. If you choose to bedshare, you don’t even need a crib for your baby. Obviously she is going to need a carseat, clothes, diapers, wipes, a bathtub, etc. Skip the wipe warmer and baby food processor – they’re just not needed. You don’t even need to move until after the baby is at least a year old since they’ll likely be sharing the room with you anyway. Anything else you can think about later when she’s a little older. Just nail down the basics for now.
Get some stuff you need for your unexpected pregnancy
Let’s be real for a second here, pregnancy changes things – BIG TIME. Your emotions are going to be everywhere, your body is going to change, and before you know it, you’ll be pushing out a baby. That’s crazy! If this is your first, it’s probably scary and unknown. But a way to relax a little is to get the stuff you need. I’ll link to some products you get yourself on Amazon below, but let me go over some things I really think you’ll need/want.
Cocoa butter lotion: The sooner you get in the habit of putting this stuff on, the better. I like to go for organic products, but anything will work. As your pregnancy goes on, you’ll stretch and it’ll leave marks. This lotion helps to prevent that.
Body pillow: As you grow, it’ll be really hard to sleep. You can’t get comfortable. A body pillow, however, really helps you to at least try to sleep comfortably.
Pregnancy journal: Obviously you don’t necessarily need this, but it’s awesome to have. You can document the entire journey with how you were feeling, how big you were getting, and how baby was doing in there.
Organic Cocoa Butter By Sky Organics: Unrefined, 100% Pure Raw Cocoa Butter 16oz – Skin Nourishing, Moisturizing & Healing, for Dry Skin, Stretch Marks – For Skin Care, Hair Care & DIY RecipesLeachco Snoogle Total Body Pillow, IvoryFrom Pea to Pumpkin: A Pregnancy Journal
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